If you’re looking at this non-vibrating, frisbee-like disk of silicone and questioning, “how is that a sex toy” or even “what is it,” you’re not alone. It’s a mystifying object without context. However, once I understood the possibilities of the Sili Saddle, I wondered why I hadn’t tried it sooner.
As their website explains, the Sili Saddle was originally created to ease genital pain. People experience pain for various reasons, so the Sili Saddle acts as an external cushion when direct contact is uncomfortable. It can be used between bodies during partnered sex, beneath fingers or toys, or by itself when even sitting doesn’t feel so great. You can also heat or cool it.
However, this wasn’t the reason I was introduced to the Sili Saddle, and it’s not how I use it. What first sparked my enthusiasm was its suggested use as a “bumper” for strap-on play. This isn’t the first time I’ve lamented my mons pubis being pummeled by dildo bases, so the Sili Saddle seemed like the squishy, crotch frisbee I always needed. Now that I’ve tried it, I don’t disagree.The way the Sili Saddle works is by placing the flat side against the base of a dildo. The slight tack of the soft silicone helps the two surfaces adhere to one another. It’s then sandwiched between the wearer and the dildo base during use. The Sili Saddle isn’t intended to work with concave, suction cup bases – flat surfaces are the way to go. Sitting in front of a massive drawer of dildos, slapping the Sili Saddle on base after base also taught me that bases with a similar (2.75″) diameter or larger work best, while smaller and irregularly shaped bases give the Sili Saddle less to stick to.
On the other side of the Sili Saddle, there’s a ridge, intended to shimmy between the labia for added comfort or stimulation. While it looks prominent in profile, this ridge is super soft – too soft to provide additional pleasure for me, though it may for folks who don’t need firm pressure. Your experience will also depend on how you wear the Sili Saddle. Since one side of the ridge is slightly larger than the other, you can choose to orient it whichever way fits your body best. I prefer the larger ridge facing down, so most of the Sili Saddle is on my pubic mound, but the more pronounced portion is nestled where my labia begin. Of course, how you position the Sili Saddle is entirely up to your anatomy and preferences.Overall, the Sili Saddle goes relatively unnoticed during strap-on use, like a ghost that wards off pubic bruises. That’s why I like it: it’s not intrusive but still provides a layer of cushion. Does it entirely eliminate the “ouch” of a hard dildo jamming against my mons? No, but it definitely softens the kick-back. Multiple times, my partner and I have sighed, post sex, “we should have used the Sili Saddle,” knowing what bruising awaits.
Therein lies the biggest problem I’ve run into: myself. After years of strapping on in pretty much the same fashion, it takes some rewiring to incorporate a new accessory. This means the Sili Saddle has become an item I sometimes remember, but mostly wish I hadn’t forgotten. Thankfully, the Sili Saddle comes in a range of bright colors, like a beacon in my sex accessory drawer that matches my Shilo. The color coordination nerdery is strong with this one.
Despite enjoying this stingray-shaped crotch companion, I know it’s a niche tool. There are other uses for the Sili Saddle, as Kate Sloan points out in her review, but it’s still very specialized. Would I recommend it to someone with zero concerns about genital pain or overstimulation? Probably not. Or someone looking for precise stimulation while strapping on? Not likely. But if you crave a buffer for your bits, during strap-on use or otherwise, the Sili Saddle is a creative and well-made option.
Many thanks to Sili Saddle for sending me this product in exchange for an honest, unbiased review.