If this was the unconventional material challenge on a sex-nerd Project Runway, the Oxyd Creations harness would take it, hands down. That program (sadly?) doesn’t exist, but this kick-ass harness made out of recycled bike tubes does, and it’s impressive. Beyond the style, it’s gorgeously made, comfortable, and multi-functional, but the rubber that contributes many of these pros also comes with a property that some might not enjoy.
The New York Toy Collective Pierre holds a special place in my heart (and pants) as my first soft packer. From its uncut design to the shimmery purple color, it’s a packer I immediately gravitated towards. Unsurprisingly, this first packer was accompanied by all my first time packing experiences, which taught me a lot about both the Pierre and myself.
If you’re looking at this non-vibrating, frisbee-like disk of silicone and questioning, “how is that a sex toy” or even “what is it,” you’re not alone. It’s a mystifying object without context. However, once I understood the possibilities of the Sili Saddle, I wondered why I hadn’t tried it sooner.
Conversations about sex toys and masturbation often center around vibrators, dildos, anal toys, and strokers, but it’s less often that people mention kink tools. Granted, that’s a broooooad category, but kinks don’t only exist when partners are around, so they can absolutely be part of someone’s solo sex practices. Many folks negotiate masturbation protocol in their D/s relationships, watch related porn, and truly any sex toy can be kinky if it’s part of your kinks [e.g. Bex’s Pure Plug or fantasy dildos]. It took me a long time to understand that masturbation doesn’t have to focus solely on genitals and orgasms, unless you want it to. Sure, sometimes all I want is to mash the Magic Wand Rechargeable against my vulva before falling asleep, but these are the ways I incorporate my kinks into masturbation and self care, when I feel like it.
Stockroom’s release of the Vondage line elicited a special kind of nerdy delight in me, but my initial glee became more nuanced after finding a need for WD-40 and contemplating if my eyelids have ever been cold enough to warrant a face sweater. Having spent years digging for vegan BDSM options, culminating in an ongoing list of vegan sex and kink gear, I hoped Vondage would be the mid-priced, faux-leather line that was missing. It delivers, but there are a few caveats.