Sometimes, your favorite cock is forever-hard, but you still want to feel secure, comfortable, and hot holding it down under clothes. I’m going to cover some general tips for hard packing and then some of my favorite techniques. I specifically talk about femme style, but most of these tips are universal.
Finally, a video that doesn’t feature my crotch! It’s a thing, check for yourself. However, it does show you how to prepare something for your crotch.
People often describe prepping for strap-on sex as awkward, and that’s reasonable, especially when adjusting to a new harness with a plethora of straps and snaps and velcro. Once you’ve done it a handful of times though (or decided to use a brief-style harness), things move a lot quicker. Even as someone who’s done this many, many times, there’s still one thing that hangs me up: fitting a (often large) dildo through an O-ring.
For me, winter is an evil and unwanted kind of temperature play. It’s a season where the Magic Wand often stays in my drawer because it’s not blanket burrito compatible, and since nobody has invented the Mitten-doe, I’ve acquired some tricks to using sex toys when it seems too cold to move.
1. Heating pads are your friend. You often hear that glass and steel toys are perfect for temperature play because you can pop them in a bowl of warm water and they’ll hold that temperature. However, if you’re already spooning your heating pad, you can use it as a beautiful blanket for your cold toys as well. Don’t try this on toys with a motor because I feel like science would tell you that’s not a good idea, but glass toys can use a little jacket since they’re always so damn cold. Above, I’ve got the Njoy Eleven, The Ursa Glass Dildo, and the Njoy Pure Plug (medium).
2. Toys with an internal heating pad. I’ve heard banging things about the L’Amourose Rosa Rouge, and one of my favorite work horse vibes, the Wahl massager, has a heated version. I suggest their non-heated counterparts year-round, but ’tis the season for doing everything to escape the frigid temperatures (unless you’re in Australia, then I’m sorry; I hope you have an ice bed). If you want to go low-tech, you can fill the dildos and plugs in the Ceramix line with warm water to keep your genitals cozy.
I’m still relatively new to rope play, but this was the first thing I learned after basic knots and restraints. It’s taught in Lee Harrington’s book, Shibari You Can Use, and I learned through online tutorials like this video by MsLadyWednesday and this variation by Lori. When I posted a photo of my first attempt, some of you seemed interested in a tutorial, so I spent a lot of time learning and practicing (and figuring out how to actually create a tutorial), and finally, here it is! Instructions for a secure, cute, fully functional strap-on rope harness.
If you prefer something with more written instructions and less 80s inspired music, that’s below!
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