Review: Sutil Water-Based Lubricant

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If my genitals had a superhero uniform, it would be a coat of Sutil. It’s a water-based lubricant that lasts like a silicone-based lube, and leaves my skin impressively moisturized. I just have one peeve when it comes to this stuff.

Sutil botanical water-base lubricantThe Basics

Scent: None
Taste: Bitter (like most lube with no added sweeteners/ flavor)
10ml (sample), 2oz, 4oz, 8oz
Ingredients: Aqua, Propanediol* (Botanical Source), Hyaluronic Acid (Botanical Source), Nelumbo Nucifera Root Extract* (Lotus Root), Oat Beta Glucan*, Gluconolactone*, Sodium Benzoate*, Citric Acid.
(*Eco Certified)

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Sex Toy Still Lifes

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Sex Toy Still Lifes

I love creating beautiful images, but more-so, I love creating beautiful images of sex toys, kink gear, and safer sex tools that may change a person’s perception of them. Much of the sex toy industry is marketed in a way that’s distancing or intimidating for many people, and I often find myself in that group. Instead, I find comfort in images captured by people who use sex toys and document them just like any other part of their life.

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I realize that the focus of this blog is “a queer, femme-dyke’s thoughts on sex and sex toys,” and this is not about sex or sex toys. However, there’s a reason I establish my identity in that description; because my perspective is just as vital to the landscape of this blog as the subject of my writing.

This week, I had a post scheduled that very much exemplifies “thoughts on sex and sex toys,” but I feel too heavy to move along in a queue without making space here to remember the shooting that killed 49 people and injured many more at Pulse, an LGBTQ nightclub in Orlando, Florida. So many queer, trans, Latinx, and other people of color were slayed in a space intended to be safe for them. That cannot be forgotten.

This is not a post to express my outrage, amplify voices of hate, debate politics, analyze motives, work through my own grief, or call to action. This is a memorial for all who were lost and a safe space for all who need it. Below are some resources that may guide you in healing, acting, understanding, or caring for other, as well as some words of strength and advice that have pooled in my mind over the past few days.

A list of free support resources.
GoFundMe to help victims and their families.
A list of local community events.
The names of the people who were killed.

Two nights ago, my local vigil ended in a resounding chant of “we are here, we are here, we are here.” It was an anthem of both support and resistance, a defining of our space and community, and a challenge to all who wish to break it. So I want to say, WE ARE HERE.

You are loved.
You are heard.
You are not alone.

Hear the varied voices of the queer community as well as the silence of those who cannot speak.
Be discerning and compassionate, towards others as well as yourself.
We are strong and we will grow stronger together.

Review: Twisted Monk Hemp Rope and Curiosity Kit

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On top of my heart eye, grabby-hands when it comes to how pretty this rope is, it also managed to change how I feel about my own abilities. Twisted Monk clearly puts a lot of care into their products, as well as making sure their customers are informed and safe, which is definitely visible in this beginner-geared kit.

The Basics

Twisted Monk’s Curiosity Kit is one of their many rope kits, and it comes with three coils of 6mm hemp or cotton rope (two 15ft, one 30ft), a pair of safety shears, and a “getting started” DVD. Sweet, sweet knowledge! This is all packaged in a plastic bag that’s sealed with care instructions.

The Good, The Bad, And My Rope Rehab

My first coil of rope was a last-ditch free shipping decision, as in, I needed to bump my order total over a certain amount to receive free shipping, and rope seemed like a good thing to spend that $6 on. It was unremarkable, mass-produced, mystery rope with plastic ends like shoelaces, and over the next few months, I watched the rope pill and the plastic caps peel off. Then, in walked (shipped?) Twisted Monk

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Monthly Loves: Sex Toy Crafts and Ejaculating Dildos

April! It’s over!

I did it, the second month of favorites! Sweet, sweet consistency! It may be the second week of May, but that’s just the type of April I had. Let’s move on to the good stuff…

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